3 Effortless Communication Secrets of a Leader

I’ve been known to tell many people that confidence is the key to landing your dream job. Personally, I believe that conviction in your personal communication skills makes up at least 80%, if not more of that overall confidence. In countries, where English is usually the second and often the third language, communication skills is something that most Westerners take for granted.

So, let’s look at some tips to communicate like a leader. It’s not about whether you’re an introvert or extrovert, whether you speak English with an accent or not – it’s about how well you’re able to groom yourself to speak with certainty.

1. Bullet Points in Your Head

I know a number of people (and I’m thinking its most of us) who have conversations in their heads, either with themselves or with someone they’re about to have a big discussion with. Some may argue that’s a sign of impending health issues, I actually think it could help you organize your thoughts.

Practically, this means that before you enter a meeting and especially while you’re waiting – bullet point things in your head. You should literally be able to see a bullet point with a word, a one liner about how your discussion will proceed and what you’re going to say. I was once told that a great writer outlines his article before getting started because it organizes their thoughts into a logical flow. The same goes for a great communicator.

2. Summarize the End of a Discussion

Have you ever had the experience of walking out of discussion, thinking you understood one thing, only to realize that the other communicator expected something different from you? It’s all too common in miscommunication – both in the business and personal worlds. It’s because even though you’ve made the effort to list to what the other person’s saying, your perception may be different.

Other than proving to the other person that you’re really listening (and comprehending) what they’re saying this tip is going to make you way more efficient. Imagine walking out of a meeting every time, knowing what is expected of you and the other participants. It’s like the perfect ending for the formula which makes a great communicator.

3. Don’t Underestimate the Power of Body Language

Body language – it’s so important that there are courses which teach people in all industries about the subtle nuances. From making eye contact, to sitting straight, to using the appropriate hand gestures, it’s all important. Think back to the last time you talked with a sloucher. Would you not have taken them more seriously if they were sitting straight, more professionally?

The same goes for you. The more professional your body language, the more seriously you’ll be taken when communicating. Don’t just listen to people, look like you’re listening by looking at them rather than your phone, notebook etc. Think tall and your posture will automatically straighten out giving you a more authoritative appeal. And above all, relax with confidence Sounds contradictory I know but believe me it works.

There are a few more key Secrets to Being Seen as a Leader. If it seems overwhelming to you, consider putting them together in list and checking them off one week at a time. If you do, you’ll see a slow but visible change to your behavioral pattern. I believe that anyone who truly wants to can become a leader – you just have to live and breathe the desire. What other tips would you provide to an aspiring leader? Please share them below!

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